By Tife
It baffles me when ladies of any category that are fit to be in any kind of relationship misplace and confuse love expressed by men with weakness of such men. We have ladies of different school of thought,courtesy of their background and upbringing. Some will want archaic love expression from men and some will want their men to express love to them in a more civilised way.
Civilised way of expressing love, what an euphoria any feminine being will want to experience, live in and die in but is it realistic in this part of the world? And is it not scarce here?... A man in love will always want his spouse to have her way always, always utilizes every second to show care, feelings, companionship and so on. Such man will always say sorry to slightest mistakes and take responsibilities for any situation that can cause problem.Domestically, such man will help in doing some chores that we in this part of the world will believe it's meant for ladies to do. Preparing breakfast for his spouse and taking it to her when she is still in bed.
It is very astonishing when a lady in this kind of situation will want a man to show the masculine part of him, thinking her man is milky. In her expectations, a real man will take his position by putting her in her place. In reality, she appreciates everything but she appreciates more iron hand with love rather than soft hand with love., what a world.
On the contrary, men of old-fashioned mentality of expressing love, always put their ego before showing their lovers care. Such men will want to put their women in their place, believing that a lady belongs to kitchen and maybe "other rooms". Though, it can not be blamed on those men because all are from their background and upbringing. In this kind of life, it will be a problem if ladies are ambitious and their men belongs to archaic world. With the rate the level of civilization and socialization is going, I think we all need to be flexible in our mentality of any form.
In aforementioned way of expressing love, some ladies will have the mind that such men are not manly enough to put their house under control or put them in their place. Thinking of them as pushovers not knowing that, that's the way they are brought up or with the help of their exposure, to express love. It should also be noted that, the first place anyone can learn how to treat and take care of their partners is from their parents. Let me also urge our parents that we should be the models we want our children to become.
Love is an emotional tool that soften the hardest heart, it is part of deceitful tools that brought David to his kneels. Regardless of how we express our love, we will have soft spots that will make us show our weakness. Everyone tends not to appreciate what we have until we lose it, before that time comes, i beseech everyone not to confuse love with weakness or take advantage of anyone who is in love because they are vulnerable.
'Tife I. Olagunju
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